Caring for yourself and others this festive season

Christmas can be a busy, joyful time of year, but it can also be a difficult season, for many reasons. So it is important we look after ourselves and our loved ones during this time.

Here are some tips to help you care for yourself and others this festive season:

1. Set realistic expectations

We often have high expectations of ourselves and others to make Christmas ‘perfect’ or ‘the best one ever’. Be kind to yourself and others and make plans that are realistic and achievable for everyone.

2. Set good boundaries

It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of Christmas, however when we spend too much on gifts, eat or drink too much, or attend too many events we can feel stressed, exhausted, or overwhelmed. This Christmas, try to set some boundaries to help avoid burning out.

3. Connect with others

For some of us Christmas can be a tough time of year, so feeling connected with others is an important way we can care for our wellbeing during December. Plan some creative and fun ways to enjoy time with family and friends, volunteer with a community group, or join in with local Christmas events.

4. Keep your cool

Hot weather can make us feel tired, irritable, or frustrated and this impacts us and the people around us. Where possible, try and create space to rest in the hottest part of the day, and schedule activities like your traditional game of cricket for a cooler time of day.

5. Stay hydrated

Drink water regularly throughout the day, and drink plenty of water before you go to bed. Alcohol, tea and coffee make us dehydrated, while water keeps us hydrated, increases energy levels and relieves fatigue. You will reap the benefits throughout the day and enjoy waking up for your Boxing Day plans.

6. Be kind to yourself and others

Attitudes and behaviours of family and friends won’t change just because it’s Christmas. Accept this and think about ways you can keep things positive and minimise conflict. Take time for some fun activities together and apart – board games in the airconditioning, backyard games, an afternoon siesta.

7. It’s ok to ask for help

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and spread too thin, it’s okay to share the load and ask others to help with some practical things. Working alongside others can help get tasks done so you too can spend time relaxing, and enjoying conversations and festive cheer.

8. Plan to rest

Whether you’re at home or going away over the Christmas season, it’s important to take time to rest and recharge.

9. Check in with others

Not everyone feels the same way about Christmas. Some of us enjoy celebrating with others, while others can feel stressed, drained or lonely. Take time to check in with family, friends, neighbours and workmates. Cheer someone on with positive words or kindness.

10. Spread some Christmas joy

Random acts of kindness, Christmas greetings for a stranger, helping a friend, volunteering your time, making your own gifts, and sharing the load of planning celebrations with others are all wonderful ways we can share happiness and joy with others.

11. Remember to breathe

When we are stressed, our breathing tends to become shallow. Take a few minutes to pause and practice some slow and steady breaths by inhaling through your nose for a slow count to 3, holding that breath for a slow count of 2, then exhaling though the mouth for 6 seconds. It will help you calm your emotions and feel better as you go about your day.

12. Geographical isolation doesn’t mean you’re alone

If you are finding Christmas tough, make sure you reach out to a family member, a friend, your neighbour, or a workmate. A text or a phone call can help you feel connected.

If you’d like some more support to help you cope this festive season, reach out to our mental health and wellbeing team on 0417 703 729 or click here to make an appointment. For 24/7 support, get in touch with Lifeline on 13 11 14, Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636, or or for under 25’s Kids Help Line on 1800 55 1800.